Battling Discouragement / part 2

Battling Discouragement / part 2

Following up on yesterdays post… Yesterday I started writing about discouragement. Near the end of that post, I wrote an entire list of the “types of people” who make me want to jump off a bridge…  The person who thinks it is their gifting to point out every problem when an idea is discussed. The …

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BATTLING DISCOURAGEMENT

BATTLING DISCOURAGEMENT

Discouragement / dis·cour·age·ment / disˈkərijmənt/ At some point, all of us face it… For me, there are plenty of days when I’m not hitting on all cylinders…especially lately. At times, COVID-19 has had me wondering if what I’m doing is actually making a difference. Back in March, I went from being a pastor to a …

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Reaching Millennials

Reaching Millennials

There was a big push for churches to reach “millennials.” Every leadership conference I attended had at least one breakout session that was supposed to teach us the secrets about how to reach this entire generation of desperately lost snowflakes. One session at a conference in North Raleigh felt more like a discovery channel commentary …

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You don’t like Jesus? What about our doughnuts?

You don’t like Jesus? What about our doughnuts?

Because of this, Oasis became a place where people truly belonged before they believed, and they were accepted even if they weren’t “behaving” like a Christian. Like you, I have seen plenty of churches advertise something like “belong before you believe” or something similar, but for me this phrase was so much more than a …

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Radically Inclusive

Radically Inclusive

Our church services were getting better and better. I was proud to invite my friends to church on Sundays. Joel and Matt were doing an incredible job building their ministry teams to accommodate the growth we were experiencing. There was one girl on the worship team named Kate who had been a contestant on the …

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The purpose of “The Naked Pastor” blogs

The purpose of “The Naked Pastor” blogs

Im sorry y’all My recent string of blog posts might be confusing, let me clarify. I’m not writing this to teach you anything or to motivate you in some way. In fact, you probably won’t learn anything except how inept and unqualified I am as a leader/pastor. My intention with these posts is to present …

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I’m a terrible counselor, continued…

I’m a terrible counselor, continued…

The next week I was sitting across from Todd on our home office couch, deliberating in my head whether or not I should go get a counseling degree or complete some kind of training. I recalled the countless other scenarios from when I was a youth pastor that should have clued me in on the …

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I’m a terrible counselor,

I’m a terrible counselor,

One day, after 3 back to back coffee meetings with a couple of staff members and a new family in our church, I noticed that my phone had about thirty unread text messages. A twenty-something year old married guy who I actually considered a friend was relentlessly texting me. He requested that I call him …

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Act like you’ve been there…

Act like you’ve been there…

I was adopted in the eleventh grade and transferred from a large public school in the city to a small private Christian school in the suburbs. For the first time in my life, nobody got cut from the school baseball team. Everyone made the team, including me, and the other homeschool kid who was wearing …

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January 19, 2014 was huge.

January 19, 2014 was huge.

We followed the directions from all the church startup kits and training conferences. After a ton of marketing and Facebook hype, 396 people showed up on launch Sunday. I think most of those people were family members of the launch team from out of town, because 8 weeks later the church had less than 200 …

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It was the year 2013…

It was the year 2013…

It was the year 2013 and I was 29 years old. I was about forty pounds overweight, sporting a faux hawk, and babbling about my dream to start a new church that would supposedly change a city. After digesting all the online starter-kit training videos for church planters, I was convinced I needed a launch …

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5 Concerns and some perspective

5 Concerns and some perspective

Whats up, Oasis! Happy Friday 🙂   The last time we had an in person church gathering was March 8.  When I first announced that we’d be moving our services online, I assumed it might last a few weeks. Here we are, SIXTEEN weeks later, and I’m getting really excited about the prospect of RELAUNCHING …

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An Awkward Monday

An Awkward Monday

Preface. It all seemed to happen overnight. One evening I exported a .pdf with the title, “Vision & Values,” and the next day I was the lead pastor of Oasis Church. I thought God was just waiting for me to design a logo, build a website, and put some shine on my instagram so that …

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I’m A Fake

I’m A Fake

I WISH I was the same person that I present to you on stage, on Facebook, on Insta. But I’m not. I am such a CONTRADICTION sometimes. My behavior often contradicts my values. My actions often contradict my beliefs, And my life contradicts my “position” in the church. Often… -I have a really hard heart toward people, -I am really …

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The Best Control

The Best Control

Control is an ILLUSION I cannot control what happens to me  I cannot control what people think of me I cannot control my family I cannot control the weather I cannot control how others treat me Self-Control is NOT an illusion: I can control how I respond  I can control what I eat I can …

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More Than Sunday

More Than Sunday

Hey lovely,I’ll never forget how you made me feelthe night I first saw you. My heart stood still, you had me paralyzed. A few weeks later on a Sunday night, holding your hand just felt right. My heart was occupied. I day dreamed on Monday about how much I love Sunday. I knew that was …

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Church For All People

Church For All People

If you grew up in “that” church and got kicked out or left out, or maybe you just got out for all the reasons…then you might be interested in this. The churches we grew up in tried real hard to establish who belonged and who didn’t belong. They made up extra rules about clothes, jewelry, …

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Jesus

Jesus

“I don’t have the house”“I don’t have the spouse”“I don’t have the money”“I don’t have the job”“I don’t have the influence” When did Jesus stop being enough? One day we will start believing 2 Corinthians 1:20 “In him ALL the promises of God are YES and AMEN.” “Jesus is the sum and substance of all of …

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Dear Divorced

Dear Divorced

Dear Divorced, That’s a big D label, huh? How do you like the pain of it? Nah, nobody does. I remember when I was dealing with it, feeling it, going through the thick of it. Late nights staring at a TV screen alone, or sitting at a bar alone, or riding in my car alone. …

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Even If…

Even If…

Even if…you blew it.you forgot.you failed.it’s your fourth attempt. And If…nobody around you believes the best about you.you’ve been smeared, lied about, & abandoned.you can’t live up to their expectations you refuse to keep up the appearances AND EVEN IF you’re over it and you’re done caring about it… There is still another shotThere is hopeIt …

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